a The Transit Lounge: Trash Talk

Back in the Day: I had a quarter life crisis, headed to Osaka, Japan for the unknown–only to discover that a passport plane ride are not necessarily a ticket to escape. Some Years Later: Settled back in Oz, the man of my dreams ended up in Tokyo for work–which is how a passport and plane ride showed me home is where the heart is. And Now: Well as luck would have it, we are about to embark on Japan Mark 3, with a baby in tow and another on the way...

Monday, October 30

Trash Talk

The definition of 'mythomania' is an excessive or abnormal propesnity for lying. It is also known as mitomania, compulsive lying, pathologically lying, and my persoal favourite, pseudologia phantastica. It is a condition involving compulsive lying by a person with no obvious source of motivation. The affected person might believe their lies to be truth, and may have to create elaborate myths to reconcile them with other facts.

Pretty full on right? So how do you deal with someone like this in your life? Especially when they happen to be a good friend?
This person is aware that there is a problem. I have caught them out in the past. At first it was harmless, personal stuff that made me and my other friends laugh a little and think 'Wow a tad crazy, but if that's what they wish us to think, ok', but then when the lies started involving other people with the potential to really cause some destruction, something had to be done.
This person promised it would stop. And I think it did for a while. But now it is not that anything is going to harm me or others, it just that this person is really making themselves look like a total fool. And the hole just keeps getting bigger. Whenever I am told anything of substance I am mentally thinking 'How can this person keep talking? I KNOW it's a lie.' What upsets me the most is that this person thinks I buy it. They think everyone around them buys it! It's not just me thinking it. People talk about it now minus the affection.
It is just annoying having to dig through so much BS all the time to get to the heart of anything, especially when there is usually nothing at the core.

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Blogger sheree said...

OMG... so there is more than 1 of these people out there!

you have just described someone i know to a T... it's so sad and frustrating to watch!

they get soo caught up in their own BS their lies become their reality i think....

1:25 pm

Blogger Gitte said...

Liz, in future if you are gonna talk about Cambosis that way you should probably do it in private. I mean, I know he SAYS he is straight, and well he tried to prove it to the both of us, but still.... ;-)

1:40 pm

Blogger Miss Riz said...

Sheree - Exactly! And even though most of the lies involve this person only, it is still frustrating!!

Gitte - you know everyone is gay until proven otherwise.

1:34 pm

Anonymous cambosis said...

in my defence i never said i was straight... and i even delved into the straight world... with two different people... though the most recent was utterly dissapointing...

8:24 pm

Blogger Miss Riz said...

cambosis - i love you so much. just been out with troy n cliff....apparently because i ave a month and 4 days left in osaka my usual 'im tired and going home' does not work....I can tell this is going to be a very long month indeed!!! Im going to need a holiday when i get home!!! FARK!! They just dont take no for an answer. Tis a good thing I can't even say no then.

1:03 am

Anonymous Ben said...

I'm sure we all know at least one person like this in our lives. The individual i know is exactly how you described.

Always talking BS. Its not that its harming anyone but everyone now looks at him with such discontent.

We have put his 'issues' down to the simple fact that he wants to be noticed, wants to be seen as better then everyone else. His the sort of person that when you say ' i drank X amount of beers last night and feel like crap', he would respond ' i drank X times 2 beers last night and feel fine'.

Our solution, simply tell him that his full of it and to stop wasting our time with his BS. This way he gets put back into his place and doesn't get the satisfaction that he is 'better' then the rest of us.

It doesn't stop him, but at least he knows we are not buying it.

Not long now babe!

See you soon

7:15 am


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